Regrets of an Early Marriage
I believe that early marriage leads to separation of the husband and wife due to the problems they are about to face very soon. “I, take you, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.” Sounds familiar isn’t it? These are only the powerful, yet sweet words you could ever say while standing, face to face and perhaps with accompany of tearful joys in front of the person you would spend your whole life with. Just imagine the billions and billions of men and women in Earth; it’s truly splendid to meet a person whom you’ll be deciding wholeheartedly to finally tie the knot and to be his or her better half. Next to it is the official declaration of an authorized person with the power invested on him by the legal and superior, exchanging vows, handing over each of your tiny symbolic ring and most of all beneath the Almighty Creator’s supreme confirmation. What else could you wish for in planning of how you’ll settle your life with the precious and soon to be precious people in your life? But, marriage should take place at the right time, right place and right age. Hence, any marriage done earlier as what is normal would not be successful; as a result the couple doubtlessly would be apart.
First, the couple is not still ready. Numerous responsibilities are shouldered by the couple, young couple I must say, such as for the household duties, children rearing with no adult supervision around them might make the couple argue over and over again for who must take the task of each which could turn into a whole mess for them. As a youngster and bounded by limits because of the decision of matrimony, the immature mind isn’t that capable enough to dwell on situations where a mature mind is a must. Additionally, it’s a normal thing for young at hearts mind to seek some teenage fun. The couple’s minds aren’t set well firm of the life they chose to start of. The whole different environment of a married life might shock the couple.
Second, the couple isn’t knowledgeable enough when it comes to handling certain difficulties. Often the young couple is immature to shoulder major responsibility and end up fighting with each other. Adjustment problems may arise as well. Another thing is the bringing up of children may be difficult. Their knowledge of child care may be limited and parental guidance is also not there. They may not be able to provide the appropriate care for their child. Once a problem becomes the source of another problem, the couple will surely be affected and more or less ruin their relationship. Everything would be a first, not enough background to dealing such problems would tumble down a young couple.
Finally, there is no stable financial income for the couple. The young couple may not be able to pursue higher education as they have to take on the responsibilities of family budget. Thus, work opportunities are limited for the youngsters. Since their education levels are low, they cannot get highly paid jobs. As a long term effect for this, they’ll be restricted to a good for food allowance and depends if the young mother and father is striving together to earn a penny. The time you should not be thinking of yourself alone but the fact you already have a family to take care of, a low amount of money for every day living and miscellaneous would start running out of your pocket and worst is not to be able to provide all needs. Being financially difficult could be the root of other more complicated problems.
Marrying early may seem very romantic and convenient, but it has its problems. Couples need to get to know each other better and this takes time. Rushing into a marriage, which may not last long does not appear the right thing to do. A ready set and mature mind is one of the tools you’re going to need to face the battle of a married life. If ever you and your partner think about getting married very soon, well, think about it more than a hundred times since tying the knot, exchanging vows, wearing the ring, wedding ceremony are all for the beginning. Choose the right person, the right time and even the appropriateness of all the considerable situations. Don’t be in a hurry, God allot for every event to happen it is supposed to be.
Our blog is all about the kinds of love. Where all of us can relate to this blog even those who aren’t at relationship but as well as relationship with God. Here, you can see the aspects of love in different ways. Readers of this blog could be able to know how to settle things in the right way. We, creators of this blog, prove to you that about love, we aren’t different. It’s just like the old saying, “the players may change, but the game remains the same."
Exposition by Karla Mae Jaro
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Posted by Love Blog ♥ at 6:50 PM
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